Making the first step and committing to living a healthier lifestyle is a very difficult decision. You would think that your family, your colleagues, your friends, and those around you would support your decision. After all, you are doing good for your body and trying to do the same for your family. Having a support base is very important, it helps one keep to the program especially during periods where temptations are rife...christmas is not far off, this is one of the periods.
However, you have to remember that you are going against the grain. Having determination where others have not made that decision yet, showing that your will is strong makes others around you feel like they have failed in their own efforts.
So don't be surprised if:
1. All of a sudden, people make it known to you "easier" ways to lose weight.
Yes, you have chosen to do it the hard way. Through watching your diet and exercise. The effort shows. You wake up early to make your packed lunch, exercise. Why should you when there are easier ways? I have a friend who was offered a "machine" that automatically burns calories when she started running. She was so incensed she didn't have a reply. By the by that friend has successfully run a half marathon and is now training for a full marathon. No calorie burning machines apart from her own body and will.
There will be miracle foods that if you eat at certain times, for sure you will lose the weight and keep it off. Or a combination of foods, or foods to avoid. Ironically, those offering the advice usually look like they are in dire need of good weight loss and healthy living advice themselves. I don't mean to sound mean but it's true. The roadside wisdom from persons who do not practice what they preach is not worth giving a second thought to. Pay attention to what matters, which is you. And the tried and tested methods which you are using. Unfortunately, lifestyle change is usually the last resort, going back to quick fixes won't work.
2. Get ready for snide comments, remarks aimed at making you look like a fanatic and being discussed in your absence.
Yes, you will be told just one meal won't harm your efforts as your plate is heaped with food you cannot down in one seating. I have had my mother sneak potatoes onto my plate, probably because she thought I wasn't eating enough, bless her.
Get ready to be told you are selfish with your time when you insist on having your 'me' time exercising, and your habits being discussed negatively in your absence. Don't let this get to you, you know what you want to achieve.
I have heard it said that my goals could not be achieved, that a CS mommy would never get a flat stomach, that my weight would never go down. And now, my goals are just plain stupid. Why would a woman want to do pull ups unassisted? Or build muscle. You know the reasons behind wanting what you want.
I also have to keep reminding myself especially where I am that a lot of these remarks are made from a place of ignorance. Knowledge on nutrition and fitness practices is not general knowledge.
3. Your body will be analysed, and sometimes, you will be told the result of the analysis.
Yes, you will be watched. And especially at the beginning where gains are slow in coming, people will say, all that work and no progress? You work out so hard and yet you still have a tummy? Your fat legs will never go, it's in your genes. Yes, they have been looking at your legs too.
Don't worry. Whatever you had been doing to get you to the place where you needed a drastic change had been going on for a long while. Undoing that damage will take a while as well. Slow and steady wins the day.
4. You will change your circle of friends and acquaintances. You will lose some, but you will gain new ones as well.
I knew my partying days were numbered with the decision to settle down and raise a family. But the partying days completely went with my decision to take up a healthy lifestyle. Yes, I do still have fun, but my definition of fun has changed completely. Remember the decision you made was an individual one. You cannot force others to follow suit. You will end up making friends committed to the same lifestyle as you do because you will socialise more with them. Your early nights will not correspond with the 'one for the road'. It happens, it's life, don't feel sorry.
5. There will be times when there will be efforts to derail your efforts
It will not be done consciously, but it will happen. "Missing one workout won't hurt"...."you shouldn't have worked out today"....Or having a soda opened in front of you for you. Refusing it looks mean, but you hadn't asked for it anyway.
Please do not have conspiracy theories about who wants you to fail, instead, keep to program. As I said earlier, some of these things may be done in ignorance.
What have you experienced on your journey?
Have an active day will you?